A good-ish-used-to-be-but-not-so-much-anymore friend of mine managed to knock up a 14 yr old. He being... what, about 17 now?
At first I was just, ya'know, "OMGWTF" but they decided to keep it. Now, I don't know this girl, and if she can actually see how this will screw up her entire life. But oh well, I'm trying not to judge.
And now to my point. When I was told, me loving the world of small children (small clothes, kitsch things, colourful fun things) and disliking children, I said I'd like to attend her baby shower, should she have one.
She's due next month, and the dad-to-be asked me if I wanted to plan her baby shower. I don't know her, and have probably met her once or twice in passing, and now she is heavily pregnant and he wants me to plan her baby shower, of all things.
I don't agree with her decision at all. I'd almost feel like a bit of a hypocrite in, well, iono, encouraging her. But she's 14 and she needs support. She's only a year younger than me, and even though I wouldn't keep a child that young in a million years, I know I'd want a friend. Her boyfriend loves her, but I know it's not enough.
But I don't owe either of them anything. I just feel it's not my place, or it would be awkward.
So this is my moral dilemma, and in addition battling with the lazy cow in me. They're both having a difficult time, but I just don't know.
Gahk.

Help me make a decision?

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salamander ate my babies!
oh gosh
oh no
God, you think you're so smart, but I've seen you naked.

If it was me, I would do it

Hope this helps a tiny bit

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'Cause I really always knew that my little crime
would be cold that's why I got a heater for your thighs

maybe tell him that you will do it but make it clear that you do not agree with their choice but as his friend you will support him and his gf anyway.
will he help?, will you need to work out everything yourself?

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I guess I'm just not sure if I should put myself in that situation. He and I aren't that close, but I feel for his girlfriend, yet I know she chose this path.
Had I gotten to know her a few months ago, even, I would probably gladly help her, but she doesn't have much time left, and I don't know how to handle tired, lonely and bored heavily pregnant 14 yr olds.

I guess I'll just talk to him and offer some help, but be kinda non-committal. I don't think diving into it would help, and come to think of it, I don't even know how she would feel about my help. For all I know, this is just his attempt to make a play date for her so she's not so lonely.
Gah.

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salamander ate my babies!
oh gosh
oh no
God, you think you're so smart, but I've seen you naked.

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Thanks, everyone.

I guess I'm just not sure if I should put myself in that situation. He and I aren't that close, but I feel for his girlfriend, yet I know she chose this path.  
Had I gotten to know her a few months ago, even, I would probably gladly help her, but she doesn't have much time left, and I don't know how to handle tired, lonely and bored heavily pregnant 14 yr olds.  

I guess I'll just talk to him and offer some help, but be kinda non-committal. I don't think diving into it would help, and come to think of it, I don't even know how she would feel about my help. For all I know, this is just his attempt to make a play date for her so she's not so lonely.  
Gah.

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maybe ask to talk to her about, see what she wants, but make it clear that you are there for a lil support even though you may not support her decision wholeheartidly

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Quote: from Salamander at 7:35 pm on Sep. 8, 2008

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Thanks, everyone.  

 I guess I'm just not sure if I should put myself in that situation. He and I aren't that close, but I feel for his girlfriend, yet I know she chose this path.
 Had I gotten to know her a few months ago, even, I would probably gladly help her, but she doesn't have much time left, and I don't know how to handle tired, lonely and bored heavily pregnant 14 yr olds.

 I guess I'll just talk to him and offer some help, but be kinda non-committal. I don't think diving into it would help, and come to think of it, I don't even know how she would feel about my help. For all I know, this is just his attempt to make a play date for her so she's not so lonely.
 Gah.

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maybe ask to talk to her about, see what she wants, but make it clear that you are there for a lil support even though you may not support her decision wholeheartidly

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Quote: from shutter bugs at 7:08 pm on Sep. 8, 2008

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Quote: from Salamander at 7:35 pm on Sep. 8, 2008

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Thanks, everyone.

  I guess I'm just not sure if I should put myself in that situation. He and I aren't that close, but I feel for his girlfriend, yet I know she chose this path.    
  Had I gotten to know her a few months ago, even, I would probably gladly help her, but she doesn't have much time left, and I don't know how to handle tired, lonely and bored heavily pregnant 14 yr olds.    

  I guess I'll just talk to him and offer some help, but be kinda non-committal. I don't think diving into it would help, and come to think of it, I don't even know how she would feel about my help. For all I know, this is just his attempt to make a play date for her so she's not so lonely.    
  Gah.

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 maybe ask to talk to her about, see what she wants, but make it clear that you are there for a lil support even though you may not support her decision wholeheartidly

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Thanks. I suppose the least I can do is talk to her, and see how's she going, and wing it from there.  
Thanks.  
 

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your welcome  

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